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At 2010-07-25 19:10:16 (Central Time) someone
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i have a problem
so, i found out over the weekend that my husband is "sexting" other women.
we have issues anyway when it comes to the bedroom due to his stepfather molesting him as a child. he feels like he cannot have sex with someone he loves... he cannot equate performing those acts on someone you care for.
well, this weekend i busted him sexting these random chicks. he claims he's never met them, they mean nothing, blah blah blah. i asked him to explain why he can talk about those things with strangers, and not his wife... he didn't seem to have an answer.
what do i do? do i leave? do i make him seek therapy? i'm at my wit's end.------- Updated 2010-07-25 20:24:39 ------- i knew he was molested, but, it never was an issue before our relationship got super serious. i figured at first, the only getting laid once a week was because of our super busy schedules, and not seeing each other often. now, its progressively gotten worse, and while we were away for the weekend, he stepped outside, so i picked up his phone and snooped thru his texts, to see what was sooooooo important that it couldn't wait til we got home. all it was was messages about sex, and things he wanted to do to them. when i called him out on it, he burst into tears. i told him he needed therapy or i was gone.
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| make me some tea | Quote 2010-07-25 19:27:08 | Sounds like he needs the shrink, not you. That's my professional opinion as an IT systems administrator.
| | KarmicHoax | Quote 2010-07-25 19:33:09 | Therapy for both of you. You to learn how to deal with his issue, and him to get over his issue. Maybe some joint sessions along the way.
If you truly love him, you just don't give up so quickly. If this is mental problem related to being molested, then he needs to be treated.
If he refuses treatment, that's a whole other ball of wax, and YOU should still talk it over with a professional so you can decide your next step.
| | Dumb Ass Monkey | Quote 2010-07-25 21:01:51 | Couples therapy.
If only one or the other of you goes, the other will still not feel good. It's something the both of you need to confront together.
| | Nescio quid dicas | Quote 2010-07-25 21:13:34 | He's fucking other people and using it as an excuse.
| | playblu | Quote 2010-07-25 23:27:48 | Demand he go to therapy as a condition of remaining married, just as you would if he were an alcoholic or a meth addict.
| | KarmicHoax | Quote 2010-07-26 01:18:54 | He burst into tears?? Dump that pussy.
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