Yeah, you're stupid, you know that. Figure it out, though. Can you afford to provide for your kids and alimony, when you "move on with your life"? Are things at home for them worse than they'd be after a divorce? And what's the deal with your "non-discouraging" friend? Does she hate her marriage, or does she just want something different delivered to her P.O. Box?

Yeesh. Sounds like your in for a wild ride there, buddy. Maybe run away out into the rocks and live in a cave, growing mushrooms and hunting wild boar for the next 20 years?

Please remember, no matter how ugly it gets, it is NEVER acceptable to kill your children's mother.

baked beans: Please remember, no matter how ugly it gets, it is NEVER acceptable to kill your children's mother.

Voice of experience, Beans? Thanks for sharing your hard-earned wisdom.

Hmm.

Talk to your wife and see if you guys can have an open relationship. If she says no, just cheat on her but make sure you have safe sex :P

Andralynn: Talk to your wife and see if you guys can have an open relationship. If she says no, just cheat on her but make sure you have safe sex :P

If she says yes, she is just using it as a way to guarantee sky high alimony and child support payments.

Even if you don't start banging the new chick, get the fuck out of your marriage.

Dude. Emotional affairs are the best because the wife isn't going to smell her adoration on your dick. If you love both of these women, continue to love both of these women. Just let the other woman know that you're not going to leave your wife for her, and that you're not a cheater.

Or you know what? Don't tell her. Don't tell her anything. She might not even fucking feel the same way but is just happy to get from you whatever she's missing at home - love and attention that are unconditional. Maybe she's just sort of lost the ability to know her husband is honest when he says things but still loves him to pieces and so she comes to you because she knows she'll get honesty out of you and she needs that.

Do NOT change your life or your relationship because you think you have something waiting for you on the other side.

Two things:

1 - If your marriage is failing, let it go quickly. Don't hang on "for the kids." You don't want them growing up in a breaking home. This has nothing to do with the other woman. Also, don't have another kid with the woman you're leaving.

2 - If you care for your friend, tell her openly. Tell her this has nothing to do with the possible divorce. But think about the fact that you could be jeopardizing her marriage as well. If she wants out of that, then she should leave it. After that, she's free to bang.

I suggest having another kid with the wife.

It worked the last two times didn't it.

/dumbass